Being Alone (Any Problem?)

I have a strong feeling that I should throw away my cell phone. Sometimes I feel, these gadgets are the real problem. It has become really hard to imagine what this life would be without my laptop or my cellphone! But then again, even our social circles don't allow us to have 'a quiet time', a time to think over... a time to be with ourself!Why do I have to justify my every move. Why do I have to give reasons to a lot many people for why I switched my cell off. Why the answer that I wanted to be with myself is not sufficient? You give an answer like this and people start asking even more questions.... What happened dude? Any problem? Is there anything you wanna share?...etc etc....
Yes, I know. They ask because they care. It bothers them. But sometimes, I can't even stand my best buddies. I get irritated easily and yes, that makes sense. I am the only person in this world who knows everything about me and still love me.I just want to have a one to one talk with me. Is it that difficult to understand? Is it too much to ask?
I think cell phones are the biggest problems. They will definitely buzz when you least want them to. And most of the time, its because somebody needs you or somebody wants to talk about their problems. We have become addicted to socialization. Look at any student (like me). He must be with his friends. At the same time, he might be messaging on his cellphone and working parallel on facebook.The problem is that we have huge lot of time to talk but we don't actually communicate. We are not listening, we are just vomiting out our words, our thoughts. Communication has to happen bidirectionally. Then only we can accept and conceptualize an actual relation.

I consider people's life as circles. Some intersect more then others and they become good friends. Some don't align themselves together and don't get along. But there will never be any two similar circles completely merging with each other. Everybody needs space and we should honor it. Even best of friends should understand this.

That little Extra!!!

Life's going pretty well, and then one day, you think of screwing it! You try to get that little extra. A little more care and attention in a relationship, a little more money for a job, a little more fame... And this is where all problems begin. Why do we need that little extra! Why is there always a 'possibility for improvement'. Life's never perfect, yes. And yes, we should try to make it perfect, but we should know our boundaries. We should know where there is a possibility for that improvement. Some things, especially relationships, are always best the way they are. A little more you expect and chances are that you are at the verge of losing it.
What I have learned is that we should accept life the way it is. People come and go. I had read somewhere that people remain in your life as long as you really need them. They leave when their work is over. Remember, Nanny MacFee only comes when children need her and not when they want her. There a great difference between want and need. We spend our whole life wanting things that won't do any real good to us. They may give us pleasure for sometime, but eventually what matters is the relations we have or ever had in the past. Every single person on this earth have a reason to be. Some are their to do great work, lead others, discover something great, to produce a great movie, to write a bestseller, to compose something mesmerizing, but some others (the majority) is their to create the real difference in a few people's life they come across. A person who makes you smile everyday, a person who cares for you without any intentions, someone who will be there when you need help, someone who will accompany you whenever you want, who will advise you on crucial matters of your life, who will walk an extra mile with you, who will listen to you when you are down, who will share food with you, reserve a seat in the class room, watch a movie with you. These people have a reason to be in your life. They are making it worth living. These are the people you should care about. They are friends, family and lovers. They are not making great difference to 'the world', but yes, they are making a great deal of difference to 'your world'.
One advice, never ever expect anything extra from these 'special people'. They are this way because you need them this way. It will be a great mistake if you try to change a person according to your need. They are perfect the way they are. I learned it the hard way by losing some very good friends. I don't want this for the people who are reading this blog. So, cherish the people in your life the way they are.

I ASKED GOD...

I asked for strength and God gave me difficulties to make me strong
I asked for wisdom and God gave me problems to solve
I asked for courage and God gave me dangers to overcome
I asked for favors and God gave me opportunities
I received nothing I wanted I received everything I needed
My Prayer Has Been Answered.

Happythankyoumoreplease

Happythankyoumoreplease...

This is the mantra of life... Always say HAPPYTHANKYOUMOREPLEASE to everybody you meet. At least, start with your friends.

Broadly, it means, I am very happy that you came in my life, thank you for doing and changing my life in the ways that you have and please be with me for more time, keep your blessings on me always.

It helps me feel better. May be it will help you too...

I also take this opportunity to THANK YOU all for visiting my blog... Please be here again for more posts...

हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

Today, I am sharing a very great poem by Shri Atal Bihari Vajpayee. I want to clarify that I am not an extremist of any kind. My views are completely secular but this poem surely have a class. So happy reading...

हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥
मै शंकर का वह क्रोधानल कर सकता जगती क्षार क्षार
डमरू की वह प्रलयध्वनि हूं जिसमे नचता भीषण संहार
रणचंडी की अतृप्त प्यास मै दुर्गा का उन्मत्त हास
मै यम की प्रलयंकर पुकार जलते मरघट का धुँवाधार
फिर अंतरतम की ज्वाला से जगती मे आग लगा दूं मै
यदि धधक उठे जल थल अंबर जड चेतन तो कैसा विस्मय
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

मै आज पुरुष निर्भयता का वरदान लिये आया भूपर
पय पीकर सब मरते आए मै अमर हुवा लो विष पीकर
अधरोंकी प्यास बुझाई है मैने पीकर वह आग प्रखर
हो जाती दुनिया भस्मसात जिसको पल भर मे ही छूकर
भय से व्याकुल फिर दुनिया ने प्रारंभ किया मेरा पूजन
मै नर नारायण नीलकण्ठ बन गया न इसमे कुछ संशय
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

मै अखिल विश्व का गुरु महान देता विद्या का अमर दान
मैने दिखलाया मुक्तिमार्ग मैने सिखलाया ब्रह्म ज्ञान
मेरे वेदों का ज्ञान अमर मेरे वेदों की ज्योति प्रखर
मानव के मन का अंधकार क्या कभी सामने सकठका सेहर
मेरा स्वर्णभ मे गेहर गेहेर सागर के जल मे चेहेर चेहेर
इस कोने से उस कोने तक कर सकता जगती सौरभ मै
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

मै तेजःपुन्ज तम लीन जगत मे फैलाया मैने प्रकाश
जगती का रच करके विनाश कब चाहा है निज का विकास
शरणागत की रक्षा की है मैने अपना जीवन देकर
विश्वास नही यदि आता तो साक्षी है इतिहास अमर
यदि आज देहलि के खण्डहर सदियोंकी निद्रा से जगकर
गुंजार उठे उनके स्वर से हिन्दु की जय तो क्या विस्मय
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

दुनिया के वीराने पथ पर जब जब नर ने खाई ठोकर
दो आँसू शेष बचा पाया जब जब मानव सब कुछ खोकर
मै आया तभि द्रवित होकर मै आया ज्ञान दीप लेकर
भूला भटका मानव पथ पर चल निकला सोते से जगकर
पथ के आवर्तोंसे थककर जो बैठ गया आधे पथ पर
उस नर को राह दिखाना ही मेरा सदैव का दृढनिश्चय
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

मैने छाती का लहु पिला पाले विदेश के सुजित लाल
मुझको मानव मे भेद नही मेरा अन्तःस्थल वर विशाल
जग से ठुकराए लोगोंको लो मेरे घर का खुला द्वार
अपना सब कुछ हूं लुटा चुका पर अक्षय है धनागार
मेरा हीरा पाकर ज्योतित परकीयोंका वह राज मुकुट
यदि इन चरणों पर झुक जाए कल वह किरिट तो क्या विस्मय
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

मै वीरपुत्र मेरि जननी के जगती मे जौहर अपार
अकबर के पुत्रोंसे पूछो क्या याद उन्हे मीना बझार
क्या याद उन्हे चित्तोड दुर्ग मे जलनेवाली आग प्रखर
जब हाय सहस्त्रो माताए तिल तिल कर जल कर हो गई अमर
वह बुझनेवाली आग नही रग रग मे उसे समाए हूं
यदि कभि अचानक फूट पडे विप्लव लेकर तो क्या विस्मय
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

होकर स्वतन्त्र मैने कब चाहा है कर लूं सब को गुलाम
मैने तो सदा सिखाया है करना अपने मन को गुलाम
गोपाल राम के नामोंपर कब मैने अत्याचार किया
कब दुनिया को हिन्दु करने घर घर मे नरसंहार किया
कोई बतलाए काबुल मे जाकर कितनी मस्जिद तोडी
भूभाग नही शत शत मानव के हृदय जीतने का निश्चय
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

मै एक बिन्दु परिपूर्ण सिन्धु है यह मेरा हिन्दु समाज
मेरा इसका संबन्ध अमर मै व्यक्ति और यह है समाज
इससे मैने पाया तन मन इससे मैने पाया जीवन
मेरा तो बस कर्तव्य यही कर दू सब कुछ इसके अर्पण
मै तो समाज की थाति हूं मै तो समाज का हूं सेवक
मै तो समष्टि के लिए व्यष्टि का कर सकता बलिदान अभय
हिन्दु तन मन हिन्दु जीवन रग रग हिन्दु मेरा परिचय॥

Difficulty of Being Good!

Can good or bad be defined precisely?

         How can one assert a person as good or bad! Can a person be completely good or completely bad? What I think is that it is just a frame of mind. Humans are strange creatures. A brutal terrorist or a murderer, all will have somebody or something, to which they act emotionally! Someone they love, someone/ something they care about! However harsh they may be, they will be good to their loved ones. When I look around myself and see people I don't like, I have a strange feeling of hate. What I think of is the bad things they have done to me or my loved ones. But, when I look closely, I always reach the same conclusion. They did what they did because they thought in their own interests. May be in same situation, if I were to be replaced by some other person whom they love, they might have acted differently.

        So, how does the perception of being good or evil changes? What can be categorized as good things? Is doing social work or thinking about others is the only way of doing good things? Is the definition of 'good thing' so narrow? I have seen people who might not be categorized as 'social workers', but yes they will be there if you need them. They are ready to help even the strangers. I don't think that doing some big works, educating people, feeding poor, etc is the only way of doing your bit. Yes, it has its own importance, but everybody can't do this! Small gestures like lending a pen, running some papers, giving a lift, etc are equally and sometimes much more important.

         As Anthony 'Tony' Robbins, Life coach and NLP Trainer in his talks points out the need of human spirit as 'contributing beyond ourselves.' No matter what we do, how we do, we always want to contribute. The secret of living is giving.

       So, never judge a person for what he looks like. There are always some sides of a personality you will never see. Take chances, learn from everybody. There's nothing good or bad, it is what you want it to be.